When someone joins my personal coaching program, one of the first things I ask them to do is to describe exactly what their body is going to look like once I help them reach their goal weight. I ask them to do this in writing – not over the phone, and here’s why…
Deeply imbedded negative thoughts are what cause us to have difficulties in any weight loss or health enhancement program – in fact, our past failures can almost always be traced back to negative thoughts that we didn’t even realize we had.
Most of our negative thinking comes out when we write things down on paper (or on the computer).
I challenge you to write out 10 brief descriptions about how your body will look in 30 days if you were coached by someone like me – someone who knows exactly how to transform the human body no matter what stage of the game you’re currently at.
Go ahead, take a moment and write out what your face would look like, what your arms would look like, what your legs and your butt would look like – would your skin look different, would your muscles be tighter, would you be leaner – detail everything, then come right back.
Did you do it?
Make your list now before reading any further – I want you to walk away with some profound knowledge of yourself when you’re done reading this article.
OK, now that you have your list, let me show you something that you can use to judge whether or not you’ve been causing yourself to fail in your attempts to lose weight and keep it off.
Here are some examples of statements that a good friend of mine used to have before he and I began working together – statements that were literally holding him back from success:
Face-more chiseled features, no double chin, no doughy jowls or puffy cheeks, no bags under the eyes.
Other than improved facial shape, I really have no complaints at all about my face, hair, eyes, nose, ears.
Neck-no double chin or “wattle”
Chest-no gynecomastia (womanly breasts), muscular instead. Look, ma, I can see my ribcage and pectoral muscles instead of a soft mattress of flab.
Arms-hard sinewy curves instead of soft breadsticks. Seeing veins and muscles instead of smooth fat.
Abdomen-are there really abs hiding in there? They’ve never made an appearance in 50 years! It’d be nice to have a tight waist not uncomfortably sliced by too-tight underwear.
Legs-less of a conical shape, more elongated and solid. Although my calves have always been rather large and firm-my best body part, next to my brain.
Buttocks-less sag, more form
Back-could be a lot less hairy, would be nice to see a “V” shape instead of a truncated pyramid.
Can you see why he might have had a few troubles in the past reaching his goal?
But I’ll let you in on a little secret – this guy is in great shape now and enjoying life more than ever, and he’s a pleasure to speak with each week in our coaching calls.
Now here’s a list from a woman who recently completed one of my coaching programs – this list was written out after our first session together – watch how positive every statement is:
Weight Loss with Mind!
Apply the Psychology of Self-Control to Your Weight Loss Plan and Stick to Your Diet More Successfully!
If you’re struggling to lose weight or stick to a healthier diet, it’s not that you don’t know what you should do–it’s that sticking to your goals and resisting temptation can be more difficult than you thought! This course will show you how to stick to those goals and resist tempting, diet-busting foods and activities through proven mental strategies.
“If you have discipline, drive, and determination… nothing is impossible.”
Using Psychological Science to its Full Potential
You don’t lose weight because you don’t know how!
Everything in this course is rooted in tested mental strategies. I’m not just making things up like a lot of health and fitness “gurus.” You’ll learn practical tips taken from rigorous research in psychological science, and you’ll discover how you can easily and effectively implement these techniques.
This course covers three general steps you can take to self-control mastery:
- How to effectively plan for opportunities to take actions that help meet your goals
- How to rethink temptation in ways that make it less alluring
- How to build your willpower and use your self-control strength to resist temptation
By the end of this course, you’ll be able to use simple tricks and techniques to make self-control easier. If you actually apply these strategies and make a deliberate effort to understand their effects, you’ll have a huge advantage when it comes to sticking to your diet, meeting your fitness goals, and leading a healthier lifestyle. Best of all, this course will always be there for you, and you can review the material anytime you need renewed motivation to stay strong.
And You Can Trust Your Coach!
I’m a trained social psychologist. Not only do I have more than 20 years of experience, but I also teach people in social psychology in real life practice. Moreover, I conduct my own psychological research, so I know a thing or two about how research in psychological science works and what it can tell us.
Don’t miss out on the chance to dive straight into the secrets of self-control success that have until now remained locked in dense academic journals. So enroll now–you’ll be glad you did.
“Make time for it. Just get it done. Nobody ever got strong or got in shape by thinking about it. They did it.”
What you’ll learn
- Apply effective strategies to resist temptations and stick your long-term goals.
- Make healthier choices by making high-calorie foods less alluring.
- Understand the key psychological ingredients that are related to effective self-control.
Are there any course requirements or prerequisites?
- You should know what your health goals already are. I’ll show you how to stick to those goals, but your specific goals are up to you!
Who this course is for:
- If you’re trying to lose weight but are having trouble sticking to your diet and resisting tempting diet-busters, this is the course you need!
- Students of psychology will also get a lot out of this course by understanding the key thoughts that are related to goal conflict.
“Decide. Commit. Succeed.”
Dear Norbert,I can’t thank you often enough, after the birth of my fourth child I had reached the peak on the scale by 86 kg’s.
After many diets I did try! I came across your YouTube videos, which were very good, but after buying the “Motivatedfit” Program my life has changed completely.
The knowledge that you share with us in the Motivatedfit Program is priceless. And I am so infinitely grateful for that, through you I have managed, despite hypothyroidism, to lose 19 kg’s in just 5 months.
And all that in an incredibly healthy way and especially without even got a little bit hungry.
I am now more motivated than ever before to reach my ultimate body shape.
My joy of life is finally back again and my whole environment and especially my family recognised it directly.
Dear Norbert,
I wanted in first place to lose weight, to lose those pounds are right now only the beautiful side effect to me.
When I look at old photos of myself, it reminds me that I don’t want to be that person again.
Physical change is amazing, but transformation of the mind is even greater.
I’ve learned how to love myself and I’ve developed a good relationship with food, which seemed like something I could only ever dream of.
It’s about changing your mindset and focusing on health, not just changing your body to look good.
Thank you so much for the support and your amazing content that change my life in time record!
Dear Norbert,
All the results were only about to take place because I had the right mindset to do exactly what you told me! To put your knowledge and your program into action exactly like it should be and this mindset my mental management was everything!
Everything in every meal, everything in every work out, everything in every day.
And my family got as well that much motivated that my mom did also the program and lose 15 KG :))))
I can’t even tell how happy I am now trough your help and amazing content!
Your videos are so detailed and you explain everything so simple and motivating and mind opening in the same time!
You gave my body and mind like a restart and a new future in a better life with the body i love now!
12 weeks 13 Kg!8 months after she gave birth to her daughter
9 years back I weighted over 85 Kg and I always tried to get back to my weight of my youth, to around 72 Kg but I failed with all I did, it was always like the Jo-Jo effect was just stronger.
But then 5 months back I found, I think by destiny, one of your videos and that time I just gave bird to my daughter 8 months back and everything becomes more complicated to reach my dream weight!
And just through your personable personality and through your ice cold honesty, based on real facts it made click by me.
I got all the results I wanted through you and will keep going with Coach Norbert.
I will not just do the Motivatedfit program, I live the Motivatedfit program.
– Melanie
31 Kg in just 8 Months!!!
It sounds cheesy, but you really have to find your ‘why.’ Last summer I realized that this year I would turn 45, celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary, and go on a mission trip to Peru.
I knew I had a year to get my act together for myself for the first time since I had kids.
“I didn’t want to be overweight for those milestones and I didn’t want to struggle with dragging my overweight body around the mountains of Peru when I wanted to be there to make a difference in the lives of others.
So, along the way, when my weight loss stalled, I’ve focused on that ‘why’ and it has helped me push through.
—Fatima, 44, lost 31 Kg
‘I remind myself how much progress I’ve made already.’
“My journey to health is about so much more than weight loss. In July of 2016, I was diagnosed with type one diabetes and spent the next year fighting to regulate my blood sugars before discovering the MotivatedFit Program. It flipped my life upside down in the best way possible, giving me a renewed sense of joy and purpose.
“When I feel like quitting, I remind myself of all this journey has given me. I think about how much my mood, quality of life, and health have improved. I also look at before-and-after pictures to show myself how much progress I’ve made. Remembering that I made my own transformation happen empowers me to keep making positive choices.” –Stefanie, 23, lost 22 Kg
‘I focus on feeling confident and capable in my own skin.’
“My motivation doesn’t come from things getting easier, but from knowing that I just keep getting stronger mentally and physically.
Every gym session, healthy meal, and mindful decision toward my health lays a foundation of confidence that makes me feel capable. Now more than ever, I wake up feeling like I’m capable of accomplishing whatever I set out to do and that’s where my motivation comes from.” –Maria, 28, lost 25 Kg
‘I don’t let mistakes totally derail my efforts.’
“My biggest lesson in terms of staying motivated has been to think of diet slip-ups as learning opportunities. There’s no such thing as ‘blowing it for the day,’ and telling yourself you’ll start over again tomorrow, or Monday morning.
“For me, each meal or snack is another opportunity to make a healthier choice, and I try not to let the whole train derail because of one less-than-stellar decision.” –Tania, 34, lost 34 Kg